Sunday, January 28, 2018

Answer and perspective by Yasmin Mogahed on female-led Jumu'ah prayer

Excellent answer and perspective by Sister Yasmin Mogahed.

Questioner: 
Sarah
Reply Date
Apr 24, 2017
Question: On March 18, 2005 Amina Wadud led the first female-led Jumu`ah Prayer. On that day, women took a huge step towards being more like men. But, did we come closer to actualizing our God-given liberation?

Consultant:
Yasmin Mogahed
Answer

Salam Sarah,
Thank you for your inspiring question!
Well, answering your question, I can say that I don’t think so.

What we so often forget is that God has honored women by giving them value in relation to God—not in relation to men. But as Western feminism erases God from the scene, there is no standard left but men.

As a result, the Western feminist is forced to find her value in relation to a man. And in so doing, she has accepted a faulty assumption. She has accepted that man is the standard, and thus a woman can never be a full human being until she becomes just like a man—the standard.

When a man cut his hair short, she wanted to cut her hair short. When a man joined the army, she wanted to join the army, and so on. She wanted these things for no other reason than because the “standard” had it.

What she didn’t recognize was that God dignifies both men and women in their distinctiveness, not their sameness. And on March 18, Muslim women made the very same mistake.

For 1,400 years, there has been a consensus of scholars that men are to lead prayer. As a Muslim woman, why does this matter? The one who leads prayer is not spiritually superior in any way.

Something is not better just because a man does it. And leading Prayer is not better just because it is leading.

Had it been the role of women or had it been more divine, why wouldn’t the Prophet have asked Lady `A’ishah or Lady Khadijah, or Lady Fatimah—the greatest women of all time—to lead?

These women were promised heaven and yet they never led prayer.

But now, for the first time in 1,400 years, we look at a man leading prayer and we think, “that’s not fair.” We think so, although God has given no special privilege to the one who leads. The imam is no higher in the eyes of God than the one who prays behind him.

On the other hand, only a woman can be a mother. And the Creator has given special privilege to a mother. The Prophet taught us that heaven lies at the feet of mothers. But no matter what a man does, he can never be a mother. So why is that not unfair?

When asked who is most deserving of our kind treatment? The Prophet replied “your mother” three times before saying “your father” only once. Isn’t that sexist? No matter what a man does, he will never be able to have the status of a mother.

And yet even when God honors us with something uniquely feminine, we are too busy trying to find our worth in reference to men, to value it or even notice it. We too have accepted men as the standard; so anything uniquely feminine is, by definition, “inferior”.

Being sensitive is an insult, becoming a mother is a degradation. In the battle between stoic rationality (considered masculine) and selfless compassion (considered feminine), rationality reigns supreme.

As soon as we accept that everything a man has and does is better, all that follows is just a knee jerk reaction: if men have it, we want it too. If men pray in the front rows, we assume this is better, so we want to pray in the front rows too.

If men lead prayer, we assume the imam is closer to God, so we want to lead prayer too.

Somewhere along the line, we’ve accepted the notion that having a position of worldly leadership is some indication of one’s position with God.

A Muslim woman does not need to degrade herself in this way. She has God as a standard. She has God to give her value; she doesn’t need a man here.

In fact, in our crusade to follow men, we, as women, never even stopped to examine the possibility that what we have is better for us. In some cases, we even gave up what was higher only to be like men.

Fifty years ago, we saw men leaving the home to work in factories. We were mothers. And yet, we saw men doing it, so we wanted to do it too. Somehow, we considered it women’s liberation to abandon the raising of another human being in order to work on a machine.

We accepted that working in a factory was superior to raising the foundation of society—just because a man did it.

Then after working, we were expected to be superhuman—the perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect homemaker, and have the perfect career. And while there is nothing wrong, by definition, with a woman having a career, we soon came to realize what we had sacrificed by blindly mimicking men.
We watched as our children became strangers, and soon recognized the privilege we’d given up.

And so only now—given the choice—women in the West are choosing to stay home to raise their children. According to the United States Department of Agriculture, only 31 percent of mothers with babies, and 18 percent of mothers with two or more children, are working full time.

And of those working mothers, a survey conducted by Parenting Magazine in 2000, found that 93 percent of them say they would rather be home with their kids, but are compelled to work due to “financial obligations.”

These “obligations” are imposed on women by the gender sameness of the modern West and removed from women by the gender distinctiveness of Islam.

It took women in the West almost a century of experimentation to realize a privilege given to Muslim women 1,400 years ago. Given my privilege as a woman, I only degrade myself by trying to be something I’m not, and in all honesty, don’t want to be—a man.

As women, we will never reach true liberation until we stop trying to mimic men and value the beauty in our own God given distinctiveness.

If given a choice between stoic justice and compassion, I choose compassion. And if given a choice between worldly leadership and heaven at my feet, I choose heaven.

I hope my words answer your question. In case you have any comment or you need more about the topic, please don’t hesitate to contact us again. Thank you and please keep in touch.

Salam.

Monday, January 22, 2018

SARDARJI TICKLES


👳👳👳👳👳👳👳
Boss: Where were you born?
Sardar: India ..
Boss: which part?
Sardar: What ‘which part’? Whole body was born in India .

😉😀😝😜😉😀😝😜😉😜
2 sardar were fixing a bomb in a car.
Sardar 1: What would you do if the bomb explodes while  fixing.
Sardar 2: Dont worry, I have one more.

😉😀😝😜😉😀😝😜😉😜
Sardar: What is the name of your car?
Lady: I forgot the name, but is starts with ‘T’.
Sardar: Oh, what a strange car, starts with Tea. All cars that I know start with petrol.

😉😀😝😜😉😀😝😜😉
At the scene of an accident a man was crying: O God! I have lost my hand, oh!
Sardar: Control yourself. Don’t cry. See that man. He has lost his head. Is he crying?

😉😀😝😜😉😀😝😜😉😜
Sardar: U cheated me.
Shopkeeper: No, I sold a good radio to u.
Sardar: Radio label shows Made in Japan but radio says this is ‘All India Radio! ‘

😉😀😝😜😉😀😝😜😉😜
Tourist: Whose skeleton is that?
Sardar: An old king’s skeleton.
Tourist: Who’s that smaller skeleton next to it?
Sardar: That was same king’s skeleton when he was a child...

😉😀😝😜😉😀😝😜😉😜
Teacher: Which is the oldest animal in the world?
Sardar: ZEBRA
Teacher: How?
Sardar: Bcoz it is Black & White

**********
Sardar attending an interview in Software Company.
Manager: Do U know MS Office?
Sardar: If U give me the address I will go there sir.

**********
Sardar: Doctor! My Son swallowed a key
Doctor: When?
Sardar: 3 Months Ago
Dr: What were u doing till now?
Sardar: We were using duplicate key

**********
Sardarji made a call to airport.
"How long is the journey from India to America ?"
Girl : One second sir....
Sardarji: Thanks !!

**********
Jandhar Singh laughing behind Mandhar Singh in an ATM counter...
Haha..I have seen ur password..
Mandhar singh:What is it?
Jandhar: it is four stars (**)
Mandhar: Haha ..wrong ..it is 3384. oye...oye..

**********
Teacher: How does the hen comes out of the egg?
Sardarji: Oye ..that is not a big question..madam. . the big question
is ..how the hen went inside the egg..!!!

**********
Sardar's friend: Sardarji, how was ur exam?
Sardarji: Oye..it was OK...but i couldn't answer the past tense of 'THINK'.
I thought & thought & thought...and finally wrote..THUNK !!!

**********
One tourist from USA asked: Any great man born in this village?
Sardarji:No sir, only small babies !!!

**********
A lady and a lion were kissing each other in a circus cage..
Ring master: Anybody can do that?
Sardar: Oye..I can...first. . take the lion out !!

**********
Sardar was driving a jeep in a jungle.
Tourist: If a lion comes against us, how can we escape?
Sardar: So simple...Give RIGHT turn indicator and turn LEFT !!!

**********
Sardar: Doctor, In my dreams..rats play football every night..
Dr: OK.. no problem. Have these tablets from tonight.
Sardarji: can i start from tomoro?
Dr: why?
Sardar: Bcoz today is FINAL !!



Thursday, January 18, 2018

"When was the last time you told your wife you loved your wife?"

A group of Malaysian husbands gathered at a conference on, "How to live in a loving relationship with your  wife".

The men were asked,

"How many of you love your wife?"

All the men raised their hands.

Then they were asked,

"When was the last time you told your wife you loved her?"

Some men answered today, some yesterday, majority didn’t remember.

The men were then told to take their cell phones and send the following text to their respective wife:

"I love you, sweetheart".

Then, the men were asked to exchange phones, so each of them can read the other wife's response to the love message..

Here are some of the replies from 10 of them:

1. Have you impregnated someone again.

2. That was then, not now.

3. You want to borrow money right?

4. What did you do again? I won’t forgive you this time!

5. Meaning?

6. Is that a new song?

7. Am I dreaming!

8. If you don’t tell me who this message is actually for, you will die today!

9. You this man! I asked you to stop drinking!

10. Please who is this?

11. Apa! buang tabiat ke orang tua ni?

12. What ever! I have a headache.

13. SAYA TAK AKAN SIGN BORANG TU..



Thursday, January 4, 2018

'An ID ten T' error

As we oldies know, sometimes we have trouble with our computers.

Yesterday, I had a problem, so I called Georgie, the 11 year old next door, whose bedroom looks like Mission Control, and asked him to come over.

Georgie clicked a couple of buttons and solved the problem.

As he was walking away, I called after him, 'So, what was wrong?

He replied, 'It was an ID ten T error.'

I didn't want to appear stupid, but nonetheless inquired, 'An ID ten T' error? What's that? In case I need to fix it again.'

Georgie grinned, 'Haven't you ever heard of an ID ten T error before?'

'No,' I replied.

'Write it down,' he said, 'and I think you'll figure it out.'

So I wrote down:
ID10T

I used to like Georgie, that little shithead..



Monday, January 1, 2018

Petua-petua untuk diamalkan

Petua-petua untuk diamalkan.

✓ Semut benci timun, letakkan kulit timun berdekatan dengan lubang atau sarang semut atau di mana terdapat banyak semut.

✓ Untuk mengilatkan cermin, cucilah dengan minuman Sprite.

✓ Untuk menanggalkan chewing gum yang melekat pada baju, masukkan baju tersebut ke dalam freezer dan simpan selama 1 jam.

✓ Untuk memutihkan baju putih, rendam dengan hirisan lemon selama 10 minit.

✓ Untuk rambut nampak berseri, bubuh 1 sudu teh cuka makan dan sapu rata di bahagian atas rambut, kemudian terus dibilas.

✓ Untuk membanyakkan jus lemon, rendamkan lemon di dalam air panas selama 1 jam.

✓ Untuk menghindarkan bau busuk pada sampah di dapur, letakan sekeping roti ketika kita memasak.

✓ Kalau baju terkena dawat, untuk menghilangkannya, sapu ubat gigi pada tempat yang terkena dawat itu dan biarkan ubat gigi tersebut hingga kering kemudian baru cuci.

✓ Untuk menghindarkan tikus, taburkan serbuk lada hitam di mana tikus selalu ada. Tikus akan lari dan bermain jauh da ri situ.

✓ Meminum air suam 1 atau 2 gelas sebelum tidur boleh mengurangkan 90% dari serangan jantung. Begitu juga bila bangun pagi.

Seperti yang kita maklum, air sangat penting pada sistem badan kita tapi kadang-kadang kita tidak ambil tau kenapa kita harus meminum air suam.

Meminum air pada masa yang sesuai dengan kadar maksimum yang diperlukan oleh tubuh manusia akan membawa kesan yang baik:

• Meminum 1 gelas air selepas bangun boleh mengaktifkan organ-organ dalaman.

• Meminum 1 gelas air 30 minit sebelum makan membantu penghadaman.

• Meminum 1 gelas air sebelum mandi boleh membantu mengurangkan tekanan darah.

• Meminum 1 gelas air sebelum tidur boleh menghindarkan stroke dan serangan jantung.