Denial won't speed up your healing. Blocking our memories won't erase what you're feeling. Ignoring your wounds won't subdue the suffering. Accept the pain, acknowledge its existence, learn from it, and then release it to create space for something beautiful to take its place.
Healing means mourning the loss of a past life. Mourning the coping mechanisms, relationships, + predictable patterns that self once called home.
Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls your life.
We think the healing is letting go of the person, moving on from the event, setting those boundaries. But the next phase is facing how those experiences impacted our own internal voice, thoughts and beliefs.
The goal of emotional healing is not to become so "healed" that you can handle endless amounts of dysfunction. The goal is to be so convinced of your worth, that the dysfunction is no longer appealing.
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